Updated: Dec 3, 2020
Valentine’s Day. According to advertisement via TV, social media or other.. It is a day to celebrate the love within a couple. What about the most important in your life? That person is YOU. I believe this is the time to honor “you”.
We all deserve love, respect and appreciation.
Take a moment to remember the feeling you had that first time you heard the words “I love you” from your first girlfriend/boyfriend. How did it feel? Did you have butterflies in your belly? Did you feel lighter? Was your heart racing? Or did it feel like a warm blanket wrapped around you.
Now take a moment to remember how you felt anytime someone you looked up to gave you a compliment. Likely your parents when you were a child, or maybe one of your teachers. And now as an adult, maybe it’s your boss or peer? How does it feel when he/she says to you: “You did an amazing job!”, “I can tell you put your 100% in this, great work!”. I bet this made you feel like you matter to them, to the business, to the community.
Now, what if you were able to learn how to love your “self”. To see yourself with love, respect and appreciation. Are you able to do so? To be clear, loving one’s self does not mean we don’t need friends or family in our lives. And don’t worry, seeing and treating yourself with love, respect and appreciation does not mean you have or need to have a big ego. But it DOES mean that you are comfortable with who you are and what you see in the mirror.
5 Ways to get you on your way to self love.
I chose to give 5 tips here as 5 is my favorite number. You may also enjoy this post I wrote other a while ago with other helpful tips: Love Yourself – 8 Easy Steps. Check it out. You are well worth it.
1. “The world needs that special gift that only you have”.
Sure, there may be a doppelgänger of you out there in the world. Well, that’s what I’ve learned through watching documentaries. No matter, there is only one YOU. You are unique. Yep, even if you are an identical twin! You are the only one in this world with the combination of your gifts, talents, experiences, personality trait, etc. As Marie Forleo says: “The World Needs That Special Gift That Only You Have”. That special gift is you and all that is you.
2. As you learn better, you do better.
We are always doing the best we can with what we know. If you feel you have failed at something, know that to fail is to grow. Every obstacle, mistake, or failure you encounter in your life is a chance to grow. Value that experience the experience. This is not a time to use “negative self talk”. This is a time to recognize how awesome you are that you have gone through experience and learned from it.
Everyone knows someone who got a life-changing diagnosis or news that changed their view on what is important. Self-care is important. Don’t wait to apply it. Yes, there is plenty to do and worry about, and in the midst of it all, each moment gives you a chance to just stop and realize your own significance in the universe.
Treat yourself with the same respect you show to those you love. There will be days where you are strong and days where you are hitting bottom. Life is ever changing. We feel a roller coaster of emotions. Respect yourself through each one. Know your value and your worth. You will get through this. Allow yourself to be in that space, that emotion, and then pick yourself up, give yourself a hug, and move forward.
Back to self talk. We talk to ourselves all the time. That voice in your head is always talking. What is it saying? Is it saying things to you that you would never say to anyone else? Teach that voice a new language. Talk to yourself like you would to a loved one. Remind yourself of the things that you find and appreciate about yourself.
I want you to take away from this is that you are important. Valentine’s Day is about love but it shouldn’t just be about “lovers”. I believe Valentine’s Day represents all kinds of love. Including the love we have, should have, for ourselves. Happy Valentine’s Day. Take this “Love Day” to honor your “self”.
Yours in health ~ Nancy Shimmy