Updated: Dec 4, 2020
Ask these questions to 5 different people and you will likely get 5 different answers. For some it is a big bank account and a big home. For others it is to travel the world with nothing more than a backpack. Of course, for many it is to be happy and healthy.
As I think of what success means to me, I can’t help but think our two teens.
Our son is now 18 yrs old and our daughter is soon to be 17 yrs old. As new parents, I remember how often we worried about doing right by them. We wanted to teach by example while giving them a safe, warm and loving home…. while learning on the go as far as parenting goes.
Now, we look at our two kids and see young, well rounded adults. One is an extrovert, in college, who communicates with others with authenticity and respect. He is always aware of the other persons “language” as he knows we all communicate differently. He knows what he wants out of life and he is well on his way of achieving all that he puts out in the universe.
Our daughter is an introvert and is now in grade 11. She is more like me in the sense that she is “multi-passionate” and wants to follow all her passions in an “all-in” manner. This can be difficult and overwhelming for us “multi-passionate” individuals. But for us, it is also a driving force.
Both kids understand that it is important to stay true to who they are. To respect others and not judge. And that it is ok to agree to disagree with others.
10 things we wanted our kids to remember.
Remember who you are. Your authentic self.
Never lose touch with your inner child.
Let’s agree to disagree. We don’t love each other any less for it.
Every opportunity is a learning opportunity.
Everyone that we meet can teach us something useful.
Always be honest and do so with respect.
Ask before helping. Not everyone wants our help. Some want to figure out on their own.
There is no better feeling than watching your children grow.
Having two independent teenagers is a wonderful feeling. As parents we are constantly wondering how we are doing. Are we doing and saying the right thing? We never miss an opportunity to create a life lesson. Whether it is a positive or negative situation, there is always an opportunity to learn. One of the many things we strive for is to guide our children in becoming non-judging, accepting and loving adults. Another is to teach them the importance of remaining true to who they are, to their views and to their visions. And as they grow into adulthood, we can see that they have retained their sense of self and are indeed amazing people. We are very proud of them.
My husband. My best friend.
My husband is the best thing that has ever happened in my life aside from the kids. Success is what this man has brought to my life. He has allowed me to find my way again. To become myself again. To heal from a depression and a burnout. He accepts me in ALL that I am and loves me for it. He loves that I am a “multi-passionate” person which would simply drive most partners crazy. We are a team. We support each other and push to keep the communication open. What we have is definitely a success story.
In conclusion, let me end this post by saying that for me the definition of success is health, happiness and love. Health to me is not only a physical state of being. I in the importance mental health, emotional health and spiritual health as well. By this I mean, eat well, move everyday, challenge your mind, choose love over fear, and ask for help. (I could go deeper into this but it doesn’t fit this post).
I would love to know what is your definition of success. To hear your success stories. Let’s get to know each other more. Join the conversation and comment below.
Yours in health, happiness and success, Nancy Shimmy